The year is coming to an end, didn't accomplish anyting.

[gotti911]

I didn't accomplish anything the past year. I'm 20 and still the same guy I was 2 years ago. I haven't grown up since I go to community college with dummies and I live with my parents. My social skills sucks. I didn't learn anything new, etc. The only thing I got was some new material for my funny sense of humour or not. Did I mention that I haven't been kiss or gone on a date. Yeah.:102:

My goals this year when I start to go to a state college is to:
1. learn how to talk to girls, get their number.
2. make all As in my classes, study hard by concentrating.
3. learn something new.
4. gain 50lbs by lifting weights at the schools gym (skinny boy right here needs to eat)
5. make alot of new friends
6. go out more.
7. be more independent
8. conquer my fears of driving (afraid of driving to places where I never been before) I'm a weirdo
9. drive better, my parking skills sucks.
10. be more confident by doing things that I'm umcomfortable doing.


so what are did you guys do anything good or accomplish anything the past year and what are your goals next year or now?

[tommykhu550]

when I was 20 years old, I had many of the same problems. heck, even at 24 I still had some of the same problems. I can understand what you are going through because I went through most of the same things.

I was also was uncomfortable driving to places I've never been and I was also uncomfortable going out with women.

The best thing is that you KNOW you lack certain skills and have the desire to conquer them. Best of luck.

Remember defeat is only temporary. It is a sign urging you to try harder or try something new. You will go through fustration and plenty of Rejection but stay strong and you will find yourself naturally attaining results.

[bitchbang]

I didn't accomplish anything the past year. I'm 20 and still the same guy I was 2 years ago. I haven't grown up since I go to community college with dummies and I live with my parents. My social skills sucks. I didn't learn anything new, etc. The only thing I got was some new material for my funny sense of humour or not. Did I mention that I haven't been kiss or gone on a date. Yeah.:102:

My goals this year when I start to go to a state college is to:
1. learn how to talk to girls, get their number.
2. make all As in my classes, study hard by concentrating.
3. learn something new.
4. gain 50lbs by lifting weights at the schools gym (skinny boy right here needs to eat)
5. make alot of new friends
6. go out more.
7. be more independent
8. conquer my fears of driving (afraid of driving to places where I never been before) I'm a weirdo
9. drive better, my parking skills sucks.
10. be more confident by doing things that I'm umcomfortable doing.


so what are did you guys do anything good or accomplish anything the past year and what are your goals next year or now?


No offense but how old are you?

Anyways, myself, I got a new job and I got my confidence back.

[ÜberDork]

You might want to add 11. quit being so hard on myself.

It seems like every post you've made lately has been really harsh about yourself. Might I recommend that you do a personal improvement class or something and work on yourself a little?

Speaking to you man-to-man, I'm sure you are a great guy . . . there is greatness in all of us (even T rofl ) but if you are anything like this around other people it is no wonder why you aren't having success.

[gotti911]

thanks tommykhu, I'm not alone. Yeah I'm afraid to drive if I had a date thats why I'm not ready to have a girlfriend. I'm a loser, who is afraid of driving. I asked my sister to drive me to the musuem one time just because I'm not familiar with the area.

Uberdork, thank you.

I need to have will power. If I think it's hard it's going to be hard if I think something is easy then it probably be easy. If you know what I mean.

[hungarianstud]

No offense gotti, but i have one word for ya my friend.
"Confidence"

Without that you got nothin. I used to be shy as well, can't say i was all that worried about driving(I have the european blood in me), But without confidence people wont want to talk to ya man. Girls love guys that know what they are doin.
Its good to see that you have attainable goals written out for yourself. Thats the first step. Now get to work. hehe.

Hope i didn't offend ya mate.

[bitchbang]

thanks tommykhu, I'm not alone. Yeah I'm afraid to drive if I had a date thats why I'm not ready to have a girlfriend. I'm a loser, who is afraid of driving. I asked my sister to drive me to the musuem one time just because I'm not familiar with the area.

Uberdork, thank you.

I need to have will power. If I think it's hard it's going to be hard if I think something is easy then it probably be easy. If you know what I mean.

You shouldn't be so hard on yourself. When I was younger, I was probably the same way. The key I think is to find one thing daily that you have done and feel proud of. It only takes 21 days to form a new habit.

[gotti911]

No offense gotti, but i have one word for ya my friend.
"Confidence"

Without that you got nothin. I used to be shy as well, can't say i was all that worried about driving(I have the european blood in me), But without confidence people wont want to talk to ya man. Girls love guys that know what they are doin.
Its good to see that you have attainable goals written out for yourself. Thats the first step. Now get to work. hehe.

Hope i didn't offend ya mate.

oh no, my mom says the same thing. I know that I need more confidence, I pray for it actually by asking God to help me get there.

I need to stop being negative and be positive.
I'm reading self help books now and acutally trying to follow the directons and apply it in my life.

[BigDaddy_GFS]

Sometimes, you just gotta say "What the fuck?"

The smartest thing Tom Cruise ever said. And good words to live by.

Umm. dude...gaining 50lbs is a lot. That's a pound a week for a year. Scaling back a bit, like 20, would be more reasonable, and achievable.

[hungarianstud]

The smartest thing Tom Cruise ever said. And good words to live by.

Umm. dude...gaining 50lbs is a lot. That's a pound a week for a year. Scaling back a bit, like 20, would be more reasonable, and achievable.

Its called riods! :065: hehe

[gotti911]

The smartest thing Tom Cruise ever said. And good words to live by.

Umm. dude...gaining 50lbs is a lot. That's a pound a week for a year. Scaling back a bit, like 20, would be more reasonable, and achievable.

Ok, I want at least look skinny muscular which should be at 155lb at 5'7 shorty. I got to eat alot though which is a tough part, I could lift all day when the blood starts to flow.

11. Overcome anxeity from being anti-social
12. Be witty, know what to say.
13. Be happy
14. Stop stressing out over little things.
15. Be confident (thanks, hungarianstud)
16. Be more of a man, learn how to fix things around the house.
17. Be more mature

Achieving these goals: taking one step at a time.

[armanisuit]

I think overall you're gaining more wisdom (which comes with age)
you're realizing that this year just passed you by, and what you should do for the next year. Take your own advice to heart, and be thankful you are doing something about it at 20 rather than 30 or 40.
It all boils down to taking advantage of every moment you have and living life to the fullest. Whether its talking to a chick you see at school, or studying for good grades, don't let any more years pass you by.

:033:

[jdrock24]

It sounds like you are just shy. I was the same way back in my late teens, early twenties. However, I saw my future wife, got up the gumption to ask her out, she said yes, and my shyness just sort of disappeared.

Like someone else said, you just have to gain the confidence to do one thing that you wouldn't normally do. Then another, and another, and another... Confidence builds on itself, it's kind of wierd that way.

What I did was looked around at everyone around me who had stuff I wanted (i.e. girlfriends, good jobs, etc...) and asked myself "If these losers could do it, then why can't I?" I know that sounds worse than it really is, but it was just my way to work it out in my head to gain the confidence necessary to carry through life.

[ronmexico]

seriously gotti.....way too hard on yourself......college is the perfect place for you, enjoy it and take advantage of it....life is how you perceive it.....think positive and you will have a better outlook:067: .....