When did you last make a break for it?

[lets_procreate]

Gotti911 posted about the year coming to an end and reaching/not reaching his goals, here (http://www.sputtergutter.net/forums/showthread.php?t=12895). I just thought to myself, over the last four or five years, I've reached just one, ONE goal, and that was something I pretty much had no control over. Thinking THAT lead to me thinking THIS; "What the hell am I doing here?" I missed my opportunities these last few years and I'll miss a lot more. I think I need to get away. Either that or do something big, make some drastic change to my life and start again. I've done nothing lately to make my life better, nothing to help me grow, nothing to make this moment stand out in my mind. When was the last time you did something huge? What was the last change or decision that changed your life? Were you ever headed in a direction one day and in a totally different direction another? Have you ever known what direction you wanted to take? I'm struggling to find a reason to make a difference. Not in a suicidal way or nothing. I'm not fantasizing about slicing my wrists or hanging myself in doorways, I'm just scared. I'm scared that at 22, if I don't make a move now, I'll never make a move when I'm 32, or 42, or 52. Have you ever been in this situation? If so, what did you do? Did you make that change? Did you take that drastic measure to change everything?

[Welsh Maximus]

The only life changing direction I`ve ever took was quitting my job and moving to the States with a buddy of mine when I was 20.
It didn`t work out as intended as we were only there for a few months,but they were great months and I`m glad I did it...my only regret is that I haven`t done it again since :022:

I commend anyone that has the balls and drive to do what you`re contemplating lets_procreate,so best of luck to you pal...go the hell for it :067:

[ÜberDork]

It's good that you are thinking about your life, lets_procreate (and gotti).

In my experience, making huge changes are VERY difficult. I made some big changes about 5-6 years ago and none of them were necessarily successful the way I thought they would be, but have taken my life in a new direction that is quite exciting. Although I wish I had more success right now, I wouldn't give up what I have learned about myself and where I am going next.

As for fear--which is what you will encounter on this path--you have to learn to be with it or it will overcome you. Use it. The fear that you will encounter are like rites of passages that once you make it through you feel like you are reborn or just took a good shit . . . it's like woo-hoo! and now what's next.

One of the best books out there for men wanting to be on a path to change and transformation is called The Way of the Superior Man (http://www.amazon.com/Way-Superior-Man-Spiritual-Challenges/dp/1591792576/) by David Deida. You might want to check it out at your local library or get a copy at a bookstore.

[ÜberDork]

I'm struggling to find a reason to make a difference. Not in a suicidal way or nothing. I'm not fantasizing about slicing my wrists or hanging myself in doorways, I'm just scared. One more comment: that is actually a very good thing when you feel a little suicidal. Seriously. That means that your old life is dying and the new one wants to emerge.

One of the best ways to see what is next is to get quiet and ask yourself "what is trying to emerge in my life?" because life is about always moving forward and moving on to your greatest yet to be.

[Mr.T]

my life did a 180 almost 8 years ago (i think it was)... for the better. dropped everything i knew and moved away to start again. looking back now, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. i grew up more in the coming few years then i had in the previous 10 or so. i was going nowhere fast but didn't want to admit it at the time. then a few years ago, some major bad shit happened again in my life. thought everything was going to hell in a hand-basket - but again, it happened for a reason and i'm now a stronger person because of it and happier then i ever have been or ever realized.

[BigDaddy_GFS]

I'm a rogue scholar and artist living in Eastern Virginia (aka 'Redneck Central').

Life stinks!!!! You can't conceive of how aggravating it is to live among inbred tobacco-chewing, bible-thumping fuck-heads who think that Pat Robertson should be President, and Richard Petty be Vice Pres.

The only thing that has prevented me from climbing on the roof with a Dragunov sniper rifle and going Travis Bickel on the local population is that I have no desire to be somebody's butt-monkey in prison.

That, and the possibility that a comet will strike the Earth in 2012, and turn our world into something akin to what we saw in 'The Road Warrior'. In that case, I have a better-than-average shot at being the baddest warlord, and chief of the biggest tribe you ever saw.lol

Till then, I'll stick with beer, porn, and non-prescription meds.

[hungarianstud]

I don't plan anything! I just thought i would let you know. My GF plans everything that she does and it doesn't work out 98% of the time. I know that i want to do something big with my life, just like everyone else. But i am definitly not goin to force it. It will make it worse, trust me.
I usually do something pretty drastic every couple of months. For example a couple of months ago i just up and went to montreal in a spur of the moment kind of thing. I love doin things like that. I love to travel and as long as i am traveling i know that i am doin good. Hope that makes some sense bro. I am only a year older then you and i am still in college. Still no idea what i am goin to do with it but that will come when the time is right.

Cheers.

[Creamy Goodness]

Nice to see some serious and deeper topics being brought up ere
Good to see all that porn hasn't warped everyones minds

You can do it, believe it!

[ThaSpitefulWun]

My girl just quit her high paying job to take a part time bartender job so she can finish college... when she is through, it's my time to go back... then we're moving to where the money is... it's pretty exciting to know I will be finishing school in a few years, and doing something with myself...

[lets_procreate]

Thank you so much for your replies. Seems like only the well established members give a shit about members in this place.

I just came back from a four day break right near the beach. It helped me in no way but it was relaxing at least. I think it just re-instated the fact that I'm not happy. I had no internet, no xbox, no foxtel (satellite for the Americans), and I was bored quite frankly. That's a good thing I realised. I spent WAY too much time on the internet (it sits at the end of my bed), and I spend WAY too much time looking at and searching for porn. It’s all too easy for me. I need some new challenges, something to test me. I’ve been thinking of going to university but I hate not being able to work full time. I’d rather work than study. If I was to do it, I’ve been thinking of Cyber-psychology, or maybe sex psychology or business administration or something like that. It’s a good idea but for me isn’t enough to quit work for. I don’t want to spend my life working for an airline caterer, that much I know. Something is gonna give and I’m not too sure what it is at the moment. Add that to the fact that we have family from overseas now living with us in the family home for at least a few years and I hardly feel like this is my home anymore. It’s like I’m a lodger. Anyways, this is enough crying and whinging for one day. All I know is that change is on it’s way, and I’m excited about it.

Thanks a lot for letting me bitch and moan about it all. I needed to tell someone who’ll give me some feedback. I appreciate it more than you think.

[ThaSpitefulWun]

i used to have the same problem, then I realized it was my fault I was stuck in the rut... there really is nothing stopping you from changing your life, you just have to get up and do it... that's it... good luck to you my man

[RAZORMAID]

I changed my life a few years ago, which is why I am where I am today (much happier and feeling much more complete). I left behind a go-nowhere relationship with a go-nowhere boyfriend and a job that I was slowly beginning to despise to the point that just being at the desk gave me nasty tension headaches before the day officially started. The headaches disappeared the moment I handed in my resignation.

Change for the better is always good, but it helps when you have a PLAN. Knowing what you want to do, and what it takes to accomplish it, and having a way to finance your way through it. You also have to be brutally honest with yourself, know what all your limits are faults are, and do something about them to get out of a rut. Otherwise, instead of change, you only get exchange and you're back to nowhere fast. And big rule....don't procrastinate, don't keep saying you'll do it tomorrow or you're fucked.

[ÜberDork]

I changed my life a few years ago, which is why I am where I am today (much happier and feeling much more complete). I left behind a go-nowhere relationship with a go-nowhere boyfriend and a job that I was slowly beginning to despise to the point that just being at the desk gave me nasty tension headaches before the day officially started. The headaches disappeared the moment I handed in my resignation.

Change for the better is always good, but it helps when you have a PLAN. Knowing what you want to do, and what it takes to accomplish it, and having a way to finance your way through it. You also have to be brutally honest with yourself, know what all your limits are faults are, and do something about them to get out of a rut. Otherwise, instead of change, you only get exchange and you're back to nowhere fast. And big rule....don't procrastinate, don't keep saying you'll do it tomorrow or you're fucked.Great advice, RM.

[lets_procreate]

Everyone has made some really great points. I had my 3 month probation review for work the other day and I haven't done as well as I thought I had. Very encouraging I think.

There are a few things I would like to try but personally, it's very hard for me to just up and leave my full time job for a personal pursuit. Example: I want to study but I can't quit work to do it. Plus I do shift work so everything I do has to revolve around those hours. Slowly though, I do feel like a new life is being discovered each day. It's rather exciting. Things that are meant to happen will happen and I'm moving towards what I want in baby steps. I mean you can't rush progress. I still find it hard to get up in the morning sometimes but it's a struggle I relish.

I guess here is as good as any place to make some new goals and see what you guys think. Here goes:

1. Each day, have 10 positive thoughts about yourself and verbalise them.

2. Each day, be grateful for everything you have.

3. Do it today. Don't leave it till tomorrow.

4. Open your eyes. See what's in front of you instead of what COULD be in front of you.

5. Grow a pair, and just make shit happen.

What do you think?

[ÜberDork]

These sound like good practices to do every day. What you appreciate, appreciates. That's why being grateful for everything is such a powerful practice.

However, if you are going to make goals or set intentions, I would make them as specific as possible.

If you believe, as I do, that the Universe will give you whatever you ask for (by giving you the opportunity, meeting the right people, etc.) then I would be much much clearer about what I am asking for.

If it is a job, what would it look like? what would you do? what kind of people would you work with? how much would you make?

If it is a GF, what does she look like? how does she treat you?

I am working on my intentions for 2007 so thanks for helping me get focused!